tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9183687221516084519.post2398202691209990379..comments2023-10-28T04:42:19.656-07:00Comments on The Fellowship That Eludes: Still ponderingCriscohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13138524446101772379noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9183687221516084519.post-21391548941486198822010-09-23T17:18:06.855-07:002010-09-23T17:18:06.855-07:00Thanks for all the kind thoughts. I guess it'...Thanks for all the kind thoughts. I guess it's the great unknown that scares me more than anything. My wife is a really good person (otherwise why would I be with her?). I am hopeful that after the initial shock, that things will continue to be good for us if not better for me having opened up.Criscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13138524446101772379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9183687221516084519.post-43168227398834652872010-09-22T10:05:43.160-07:002010-09-22T10:05:43.160-07:00Scott is right. It will irrevocably change your r...Scott is right. It will irrevocably change your relationship with her. But that can be good. <br /><br />Just remember that you've had a lifetime to come to this point. She'll have a few moments to get her head around it. In other words, it will take time, and you'll need to grant her that time and not be so anxious to not give her the space she needs to understand what you are Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9183687221516084519.post-20811177817537890122010-09-21T04:57:33.142-07:002010-09-21T04:57:33.142-07:00I applaud your desire to share this aspect of your...I applaud your desire to share this aspect of your life with your wife. I agree that it will change a lot, but I think it is a positive thing to not have secrets from your wife. I recommend the book, "When Husbands Come Out of the Closet" for you and your wife. It will help you to both understand the changes occuring in your marriage and it gives very helpful advice on how to Mister Curiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113134172902610883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9183687221516084519.post-51038450542429707452010-09-20T12:59:02.204-07:002010-09-20T12:59:02.204-07:00I'm sorry if my choices and actions have cause...I'm sorry if my choices and actions have caused you anxiety. :(<br /><br />Coming out to your wife will irrevocably change your relationship with her.<br /><br />Some of these changes will be good. You might find it easier to be honest and open with each other, and to communicate your wants, needs, hopes and fears. If your wife has had any esteem issues because she has sensed that you are notScotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15332275934258698026noreply@blogger.com